There really are no relationships that are perfect – and even the ones that we think might be perfect, are not. No relationship is perfect. We can’t always control what happens in our relationships, but we can determine how a breakup affects us emotionally, especially during a pandemic. It is important to heal and I want to share a few tips.
Sadness and anger are likely two of the emotions brewing; but there is also fear, guilt, and confusion. If you feel undermined or betrayed, you may ask yourself if you misjudged your man’s character. If you initiated the breakup, you are likely to self-criticize.
There are also new dynamics with the pandemic. “Zumping” is a new trend that involves breakups happening over a zoom conference call. Being dumped during a pandemic is particularly frustrating already because you can’t call your girlfriends to show up with wine and ice cream, get a massage or engage in a lot of activities that were once “breakup therapy”. You feel stagnant, just like everything else in the world – on hold.
So what can you do?
Feel to Heal
The most important way to heal from heartbreak is to take the time to acknowledge your feelings. I get it, it doesn’t feel good to sit around feeling sad or hurt, however the only way you’re going to truly move forward is by taking the time to sit with your feelings. The next man you meet deserves to have your full heart and this is the only way to do that. Allot a certain amount of time each day to be sad, mad, or unhappy and then go about your day. Before you know it, you’ll be feeling like yourself again.
Connect and Get Support
I’ve got you, girl! You don’t need to suffer alone. Reach out and get support. Call a friend, therapist, or coach. Know that people are out there who care about you and can relate to what you’re going through.
Join an Online Group
While you are obviously feeling alone, you are not – and nothing proves that more than an online group of other women who are experiencing the same thing as you. There is an old Chinese proverb that says, “in order to heal, tell your story a thousand times”. An online group is perfect for just that. It allows you to meet new people that have a commonality and you can learn from each other.
Invest in Your Future by Learning Something New
Now is the time to take an online class. Maybe you want to learn a second or third language, or you’d like to take an online cooking class. The truth is that while it can keep you focused on a goal and not on your ex, it can also help you to have more to talk about with the person you are supposed to be with. There is also something inspiring about learning something new.
Learn as a Way to Grow
Each relationship gives you the opportunity to reflect on yourself and the areas you need to work on. Are you still settling for emotionally unavailable men? Do you still need to work on asking for what you need? Let’s face it, it takes time to develop the skills necessary to become good at dating. If you truly want to find a great guy and have an amazing relationship then you need to focus on you!
These are just a few ways you can learn to heal your heart during the pandemic, so you can move on to greater things. After all, the road you are standing on now may be uneven, but the one you are headed to is so worth it!
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