How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Dating Coach?
I realized I had developed unhealthy relationship patterns and I was tired of being in unfulfilling and unsatisfying relationships.
I had a life pattern of being heartbroken. In my adult life, I had a history of picking unavailable men. I had to learn how to continually recover from heartbreak and disappointment, yet I didn’t. I kept attracting men who couldn’t communicate and were not emotionally available.
Instead of processing my feelings of disappointment and loss, I internalized them and I created the false beliefs that “I’m not deserving” and that “all men will leave me.” I made an unconscious pact with myself never to be hurt like this again, however it didn’t work.
I continued to get hurt over and over again.
This showed up in the men I dated and in my confidence. I put up walls and didn’t allow any man to get close to me. When I did meet a quality man, I found fault with him and became hyper critical, then in turn he would break up with me.
I made excuses for why these men weren’t good enough for me. The problem wasn’t the men, it was me. And because I chose men who were emotionally unavailable, when these relationships ended I concluded that it was “his fault” that he didn’t have all of the qualities I was looking for, when in reality I believed that I wasn’t worthy of being in a loving relationship.
I would also twist myself into a pretzel, and put my partner’s needs before mine as an attempt to “make him love me.” I spent more time worrying about his needs than my own, which was exhausting! I stopped respecting myself and the men stopped respecting me as well.
I figured there had to be a way to meet the man of my dreams. I tried online dating, speed dating and meetups. You name it and more than likely I tried it. What I didn’t realize was that it wasn’t the app or website that was the problem, it was the energy I was putting out. I would approach each date with a check-list to see if each man could live up to my expectations. None of them stood a chance!
Eventually, my frustration with dating and relationships became so great that I decided I needed professional help. I delved into personal growth work. I sought out coaches. I read self-help books. I went to seminars. I even went to grad school and got my master’s in psychology.
And in the process, I learned SO MUCH about why I was doing what I was doing. I regained my confidence and I took charge of my own love life!
I’ve taken the time to figure this out and I’ve condensed decades of research and experience down into a simple and effective program that works. As a confidence and dating coach, I am passionate about helping women and giving them the tools they need in order to choose and attract the guy that’s right for them.
Who are your clients?
- Committed to releasing old patterns and taking action
- Ready to take full responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings and behaviors
- In search of more confidence
- Confident that their soulmate is looking for them regardless of their circumstances
- Hopeful about the future
- Willing to apply new tools and techniques to their dating life
What makes you different from other dating and relationship coaches?
I work on the inner and outer principles for finding lasting love. I’m empathic and I have a straight-forward approach and you’ll get specific tools on how to attract higher quality men. I’m concerned with how to help you on your path to finding your soulmate/life partner. I ‘m going to help you uncover and release old blocks and develop new strategies and techniques so you can attract higher quality men now!
When you work with me as your dating coach, you’ll get step-by-step support as you explore your online dating options, begin going on dates and navigate the early stages of dating and forming a relationship.